What is it the chaser truly wants to know from the runner? There is a honest longing to understand what’s happening on the other side of the connection. Not out of control or desperation, but simply because… it meant something. And still does.
And when something touches your soul that deeply, it’s natural to wonder:
“Do they feel it too?”
“Was it real for them, the way it was for me?”
We keep living, healing, becoming the best version of ourselves. We raise our awareness, step into our light… and yet — the questions still come:
“How is my twin flame doing? How are they feeling? Are they thinking of me?
What Is the Runner–Chaser Dynamic?
What is it the chaser truly wants to know?
Haha, sometimes I catch myself pretending I’ve fully moved on.
But then a song comes on, or a random dream, and suddenly I’m back in that energy for a moment.
It’s human. It’s tender. And it doesn’t make you weak, it just means you felt something real.
The trick isn’t to force yourself to stop caring.
It’s to let yourself feel the truth without letting it run your life.
To smile at the part of you that still wonders, and gently bring your focus back home.
Back to you. Back to your path and back to the love that never left you. Because the connection felt so real, so intense, that the silence almost hurt more than the separation itself.
My story in short:
Just briefly, in between, my own experience as the chaser in this question.
What made it so hard for me was this:
He and I became more than best friends, it was intense, magnetic. We really liked each other. The connection was instant and powerful. Honestly, it was probably a good thing he lived in another country, haha. We even talked openly about how strange and intense it all felt. I know he had strong feelings for me, from the beginning, because he told me. We spoke every single day, morning to night. It almost felt like we were in a relationship. And yet… I could feel he was struggling. Torn within himself. Afraid.
Then we had a fight, and I can’t even remember what it was about anymore. Which says a lot, right? 😉
But after that, he shut me out completely. Said he never wanted contact again. Now I understand this is often how twin flame dynamics work. The connection is so strong that it triggers deep fears. Many runners struggle to open their hearts. And when they get hurt, they close down to protect themselves.
That’s exactly what happened.
What is it the chaser truly wants to know?
And now, it’s up to him to face that part of his journey.
I’ve chosen no contact, because I needed to step out of my chaser energy. I didn’t want to keep reaching out while he showed no care for me at all. So now I’m in a kind of stay energy, staying with myself.
I keep healing, I keep growing.
And if he ever wants to find me… he knows where I am.
That gives me strength. It gives me back my power, and my joy. Do I wonder how he’s doing?
Do I wonder if his feelings are still there? Absolutely. But you can only suppress emotions for so long. Sooner or later, they rise back up.
And I know that… because I’ve done the same.
Let’s return to you, and the story I’ve been meaning to share with you
What is it the chaser truly wants to know from the runner?
What is the hardest part of not knowing? Hearing nothing… knowing nothing about your twin flame.
Are they thinking of me? Do they love me too? Are they hurting, or just moving on with their life like nothing happened? Did they feel the connection too?
Am I going crazy for feeling all of this so deeply?
Why do you want to know? Because when the connection feels this deep, this soul-shaking, it’s almost impossible to believe it could be one-sided.
And so, the mind reaches for something to hold onto. A sign. A message or a return.
What doe you truly want to know?
But here’s the honest, tender truth:
What you’re searching for in the runner is often a reflection of something you deeply need from yourself.
If you’re the chaser, you’re probably feeling something like this:
It’s not just about wanting the runner to come back, It’s about wanting to feel seen.
To feel understood in this strange, spiritual experience.
To not feel crazy for sensing something that others can’t explain.
It’s about needing to know:
“I’m not the only one who felt that.” and “I’m not the only one who was forever changed.”
And underneath it all…
It’s the ache of being cracked wide open, of loving without guarantees.
Of surrendering to something bigger than logic, and not knowing what to do with that kind of love.
This is your moment to turn it around.
When you stop chasing their validation, and start turning inward, something powerful happens.
You realize that you were never abandoned. You were being guided back home, to you.
And that’s really powerful and where your healing begins. So yes, you, (as a chaser) wants to know what the runner feels. But deeper than that, you just want to feel safe. Whole. Loved. And that, sweet heart, is something you can give yourself now. And over time, You begin to realize the answers were always within you. You don’t need to chase, because clarity lives inside you.
