Tips to get out of the DNOTS. You really need to read this, if you’re right in the midst of it. These tools can help protect you from burning out and soothe the intense emotions that swirl within. I’m sharing what helped me when I needed it most.
Remember, healing isn’t instant. It takes time, patience, and practice, especially if meditation or yoga are new to you. But please believe me when I say: there is a way through this. You are not alone. You’ve reached the deepest valley, and now, with each small step, your journey back toward the light begins.
Keep going, dear spirit. You are stronger than you know, and brighter days are just ahead.
Tips to get out of the DNOTS
- Recognize the signs you’re experiencing.
Understanding what you’re going through is the first step toward healing. Remember, there is a way out. Accepting that you’re in the midst of a Dark Night of the Soul is a powerful and important step. Be gentle with yourself, don’t judge or fight what’s happening. This is all part of your unique journey.
It’s okay to feel lost, confused, or sad right now. Acknowledge those feelings with kindness, because honoring them opens the door to healing. You’re doing important inner work, even if it doesn’t always feel easy. Keep trusting yourself, brighter moments are on their way.
- Take care of yourself.
I truly believe self-care is one of the most overlooked but essential things when you’re in the midst of a soul shock. It’s natural to want to cry, feel anger, or just lie still in overwhelm. But right now, caring for yourself is more important than ever.
Do what brings you peace. Explore little things that still bring you joy. Sometimes, gentle distraction can be a healing balm. Take a walk in nature, notice the trees, the flowers, the birds singing around you. Love cooking? Then treat yourself to your favorite meal, made with care.
Tips to get out of the DNOTS
What helped me was moving my body. I started going to the gym daily. It became a kind of safe place. after exercise, I would meditate. Guided meditations worked best for me because they quiet the mind. Find your own little sanctuary, whether it’s a warm bath with soothing oils, a gentle yoga flow, or simply a few quiet moments to breathe. Listen to what feels right. You absolutely deserve this kindness.
Do what brings you peace. Explore little things that still bring you joy.
- Seek help and support
Seeking support matters — more than you might realize.
You need someone who truly sees you, who listens without judgment.
Honestly, I only confided in one person. I was afraid people would think I was losing it.
Twin flame? Soul connection? Dark Night of the Soul?
I could already hear the responses in my head:
“You’re just heartbroken. Eat some ice cream, and you’ll feel better tomorrow.” And then the well-meaning advice:
“My husband wasn’t my soulmate either, but we’re still together.”
Or: “If it was real, they wouldn’t have walked away.”
Those kinds of comments? I wasn’t ready for them. So, I stayed quiet, except with one person. My mother. Because she’s deeply spiritual, and I knew she would understand.
No one deserves to walk feeling lost and feel swept up in a wave of not knowing.
Connection matters
Yet I often felt alone on this path.
That’s why I started my blog, because no one deserves to walk this spiritual journey feeling lost and feel swept up in a wave of not knowing.
To cry out, unsure which way to turn, with your heart and mind pulling in different directions. Unsure which way to turn.
That’s why connection matters. That’s why your story matters.
Sharing it — even in small, quiet ways — can be the light someone else needs to find their way.
And maybe for you, support looks different. Maybe it’s talking to a therapist, a coach, or a trauma-informed guide.
Whatever path you choose, just don’t keep it all inside.
You deserve support. You deserve to be heard.
- Self-reflection. Look in the mirror, gently.
It’s time to give space to your thoughts and feelings — to let them be seen, heard, and felt.
There are many ways to do this, and it’s okay to start small.
For me, in the beginning, walking in nature was deeply healing. There, I found quiet moments of peace…
Sometimes even a smile, as the sunlight filtered softly through the trees.
Journaling can also be a safe and soothing practice. Just you and the page, no judgment, no pressure.
A place where your thoughts, emotions, and deepest truths are gently held.
And then, there is meditation.
A way to find calm in the chaos, to simply be present with whatever rises.
Try observing your thoughts with compassion, like clouds passing through the sky.
If silence feels too big, guided meditations can offer gentle support and structure.
Tips to get out of the DNOTS
- Move consciously.
Your mind can be so full, especially when your heart aches, when you’re overthinking your twin flame connection.
Will they reach out again? Why does it all feel so confusing?
When your thoughts feel loud and endless, it’s time to soften the mind and return to your body.
Gentle movement can help you do just that.
Practices like yoga, tai chi, or qigong offer a quiet way to release tension, clear the mental fog, and feel grounded again.
Slow, mindful movements, bring you into the present moment, where your body becomes a safe place to land.
Some days, you might not feel like doing yoga.
Maybe your soul longs to paint, walk, dance, cycle; anything that lights you up.
Follow what brings you joy, what makes your heart feel just a little lighter. It’s not about doing it perfectly.
It’s about being present. Present in your body. Present with your feelings, without drowning in them.
Coming home to yourself, gently, one breath at a time.
Tips to get out of the DNOTS
