I Stopped Chasing My Twin Flame, Here’s What Happened. After he walked away, (the runner), I messaged him around Christmas. I wanted to wish him a Merry Christmas. To my surprise, he replied, and for a few days, we had contact again. It felt like maybe something could change, but I quickly realized it was different from what I had hoped for.
He wanted to know everything about me, often asked how I was doing, and said he thought about me a lot. Of course, it was nice to hear, but at the same time, I could feel that after our fight, he had completely closed his heart. His tone was often cold, his answers direct and painful. It was as if he showed the hardest side of himself, retreating into a bunker to protect his heart.
Still, he wanted to know everything about me, while at the same time he seemed so cut off from his own feelings. He was trying to convince himself that our breakup was the best thing for him. That contradiction cut through my soul like a knife, and I cried for days over that pain and distance. At one point, it became very clear to me: now I stop. Enough is enough. I decided to choose myself and stop chasing after him.
I Stopped Chasing My Twin Flame, Here’s What Happened
One last thing I wanted to do before I stopped chasing him. I did wish him a happy birthday, two months after our last contact. He replied with a short “thank you,” even added a smiley. As if he was happy with my congratulations. But he didn’t ask me anything. So it was clear to me that he was still very much in his head. Nothing had changed in him, so I decided to leave him alone. And that was the last time he heard from me. And honestly? That gives me strength and courage because now I’m choosing myself.
It’s not hard for me, to not reach out anymore. Because it was more painful to talk to the closed-off side of him than to be silent. I told God and the universe that I don’t want to talk to someone who isn’t open. That he needs to heal himself first. Will my silence do anything to him? Does it affect him? I don’t know.
But I keep receiving little signs: a feeling, a clear thought in my mind, sometimes a dream. As if the universe is letting me know he’s not lost. How am I now? I feel good because I’m finally choosing myself. Of course, there is sadness, but the relief is greater. I’m putting myself first now.
What if my twin flame is breaking me more than healing me?
I let go of chasing and began focusing on myself
I’m grateful to him for awakening me and pushing me to grow. And most of all, I’m grateful that I can now work on becoming the best version of myself. The person I was truly meant to be. When I stopped chasing my twin flame, I first felt a huge relief, like a weight finally lifted off my shoulders. No more unrealistic hopes, no more desperate moments wondering if he would ever really come back.
It felt like finally breathing again after being underwater for so long during this intense twin flame separation. But that relief came hand in hand with sadness. The emptiness left behind was painful. It felt like letting go of a part of myself I didn’t even realize I was holding onto so tightly. Sometimes I felt lost, vulnerable, and restless, like my heart was still searching for a safe place to land in the midst of emotional healing after a difficult breakup.
Yet something began to shift. Slowly, I found my own voice again, the one I had hidden away hoping he would change. I learned to feel myself deeply, to embrace my own pain without needing him by my side. That space gave me a gentle strength, something I’d never felt before. Self-love that doesn’t depend on anyone else, true inner healing after a twin flame breakup.
It wasn’t easy. There were days I felt like I was breaking. But it was through that breaking that something new was born. A deep peace, a coming home to myself. And despite everything, I now know: this was necessary. This was my journey of personal growth and healing, my way back to who I truly am.
